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Are You Ready For Sex?

Are you over 16?
This page contains sensitive material which should not be viewed by anyone under the age of 16.

This page contains sensitive material which should not be viewed by anyone under the age of 16.

Working out whether you're ready for sex is one of life’s big decisions.

You might be thinking about losing your virginity or having sex again, here are 7 things to consider:

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1. It's your decision
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Remember, only you can decide whether or not you’re ready to have sex and it’s ok to say no.

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2. No means no
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It’s important not to pressurise anyone else to be sexually active if they don’t want to do it respect that. No means no.

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3. Do you know about the law?
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The legal age of consent is 16; younger than that and it’s against the law for you to be having sex. This is true for boy/girl sex, girl/girl sex, boy/boy sex and basically for all sex, with anyone!

But when you get to 16, that doesn’t mean it’s necessarily the right age for you to start having sex.

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4. Non-consensual sex with a person who is intoxicated is rape
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If a person is unconscious or their judgement is impaired by alcohol or drugs, legally they are unable to give consent. Having non-consensual sex with a person who is intoxicated is rape.

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5. Communicate with your partner about sex
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It’s really important to communicate with your partner about being sexually intimate so you can find out what each other likes and dislikes. What turns one person on might make someone else feel uncomfortable. It’s also important to wait until you’re ready to progress to sex

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6. Talk about safe sex
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It’s vital that you talk about safe sex (link to safe sex here) before you get to having sex; you need to protect yourself from STI’s (Link) and the risk of unplanned pregnancy.

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7. You might not be ready to have sex if.....
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You feel embarrassed or uncomfortable talking about point’s 4 or 5.

how to get help

If you have any more questions on this area or would like to speak to somebody about this topic, have a look at the links or search for your local services in the blue box below. Alternatively you can always contact your public health nurse.

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Find out what services are available to you in your area. Remember your school nurse is always there to give you confidential help and support.