Social media vs real life at university

University can feel like a big transition from sixth form or college.

It’s a brand new chapter that can feel exciting and daunting with new opportunities and challenges.  

Although social media offers a look at what university can be like, people might edit their profiles to make it seem like they are having the best time of their life – with non-stop parties, big friendship groups and perfect study sessions. This can create expectations which make for a harder transition.   

Let’s look at the differences between real university life and how social media can make it seem. 

Social life

Social media can show people finding friends instantly, going out partying every weekend or visiting new places with lots of new mates.  

But remember, social media shows people’s highlights and not their low points. Someone can post a photo of them smiling with friends, but feel homesick as they post it.

A lot of students can feel lonely and anxious, especially at first, and real friendships can take time to build – it doesn’t happen overnight.  

Getting out of your comfort zone can be tough, and it’s okay to socialise at your own pace.  

You don’t need to go out every weekend or have large friendship groups, it is ok to have a small group of friends.  

University work

Studying at university can be hard, and social media doesn’t always reflect this. 

For example, you might see some late-night library posts and stories that are accompanied by captions that downplay the amount of work someone has put in. Such as: “Hand in tomorrow, only just started 😂” 

On the other hand, someone in your class might make it look like they’ve done loads more work than you. 

Don’t worry, there might be times when you feel behind or unsure of yourself and lots of students feel like this from time to time. There can be late nights and hard lectures, but it’s important to remember that you’re not alone and support is always available from lecturers and student support staff.

Independence 

It can be exciting to live on your own away from home. But sometimes freedom can feel overwhelming.   

Social media can portray daily university life as easy, fun and full of freedom, but there are times when it might be hard to balance money, household chores and taking care of your health alongside work, hobbies and a social life.  

It’s okay to struggle, and it’s okay to go home when you need to. Many universities hold support sessions for students who are struggling with independent living, homesickness and health. 

University is a place to grow and learn about yourself. Getting the balance right between work, keeping healthy and socialising is key.  

And remember, social media shows highlights, not always real life, so don’t compare your journey to others or be hard on yourself.

How to get help

If you have any more questions on this area or would like to speak to somebody about this topic, have a look at the links or search for your local services in the blue box below. Alternatively you can always contact your school nurse.

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