Check out these ways to help make sense of your feelings.
1. Being listened to
Express yourself – it is good to talk and know that you are being heard. Who do you trust the most to talk to? A friend? Someone in your family? A neighbour? An adult at school, a youth worker or counsellor? A doctor or school nurse? Texting ChatHealth may also help.
2. Be aware of your mood
Our mood can go up and down naturally. We are often aware when we are likely to have low mood, or perhaps become really excitable. When our mood is either low or high we are more likely to find strong feelings a challenge. Be aware of how you are feeling, and be gentle with yourself.
3. Exercise to raise your mood
There are things we do that can help us feel more positive. A good one is to do some exercise. This can energise you and lift your spirits. Anger and frustration are great fuels for high energy activity. For some inspiration, check out ‘This Girl Can’.
4. Challenge negative thoughts
People can have negative thoughts that just come into their heads. These thoughts can feel hard to get away from and very easy to believe, like ‘no-one wants to listen to me’. Negative thoughts are often exaggerations, and not the truth. It is important to challenge these thoughts and make space for positive thoughts – which are more likely to be closer to the truth.
5. Don't blame yourself for things that are not your fault
Often strong feelings come because of what other people have done or said. You are not responsible for their behaviour, just your own.
6. Be creative
Strong feelings demand a response. Use them to motivate yourself to express creativity. This might be through writing down feelings in a book or diary or drawing a picture to explore your emotions. People use dance, rap, music or physical exercise to express how they feel. Lots of famous people have used the strong feelings they have inside them creatively. Lots of creative things have been done using anger as a fuel!
7. Be your own best friend
There’s one person that is always going to be hanging around with you… yourself! You might as well get on. Do you use the same standards to treat yourself as you do others? If someone you knew was saying things about themselves or hurting themselves, what would you say to them?
Sometimes feelings can grow to a point where people feel they have to do something to bring it to an end. There are lots of ways to deal with these feelings. Some people hurt themselves – this is called self-harm. This might seem to help, but the sense of relief does not last long.
how to get help
If you have any more questions on this area or would like to speak to somebody about this topic, have a look at the links or search for your local services in the blue box below. Alternatively you can always contact your public health nurse.
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