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Webchat: Loss, Bereavement and Resilience 19.06.17 4:30-5pm

Join us for a chat from 4:30pm on Monday 19th June 2017.

Loss, Bereavement & Resilience 19.06.17 4.30-5pm

Have you experienced a bereavement or are you worried about someone you know.  Do you have a question you would like answered, then join us online on Monday 19th June at 4.30-5pm where you can chat about loss, bereavement and resilience and get health advice and information.

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Chat Health (Sarah - Moderator) / 19 Jun 16:34

Welcome to today's webchat. Have you experienced a loss of a loved one or are you worried about a friend? Ask your questions this afternoon?

Chat Health (Sarah - Moderator) / 19 Jun 16:36

More than 100 children/young people are bereaved of a parent every single day in the UK. This is the most fundamental loss a child will ever face, with the right support at the right time, a child or young person can face the future with confidence and hope.

Chat Health (Sarah - Moderator) / 19 Jun 16:41

Grief may not feel normal but it is. Everyone will grieve in their own way. You may experience all sorts of feelings or you may feel nothing. You may find it easy to talk or you might bottle all of your emotions up.
Grief is:
“A massive bundle of different emotions and intense feelings. Feeling sad and missing somebody. Love happens and people die in your family. Someone who has lost someone and they can’t get over it. You cry over someone dying. You cry then you stop. Then you cry, then you stop.”
– Member of our Young People’s Advisory Group, Child Bereavement UK

Chat Health (Sarah - Moderator) / 19 Jun 16:44

Everyone experiences different feelings when they lose a loved one or even a pet. Whatever you feel is how you feel. You may experience a mixture of feelings all at once. It helps if you can learn to recognise your feelings.
You may feel……
Numbness when you think you should be feeling very upset. Lots of young people have told us they feel numb at first.
Loneliness. Try spending time with your friends. You are not being disloyal to your family or the person who has died
Worry, perhaps about the future, who will look after you, your siblings or your parent? You may find yourself talking to the person who has died about these worries.
Anger. There is not always an easily understood reason for it but it is perfectly natural to feel it.
Guilt and Regret. It is very normal to think that you could have done more or that you should have behaved differently. It was not your fault and there is nothing you could have done to prevent the death.
Confusion about the way everything in your life has changed.

Chat Health (Sarah - Moderator) / 19 Jun 16:48

Lots of emotions and unsure how to cope with them?

Tips from young people
• Too many emotions? Share them
• I like to take my mind off it – TV, playstation, go outside
• Watch a good film or TV programme
• Choose something that belonged to the person who died that you can treasure
• Listen to music that you like
• Create your own space as sometimes it can get too much and you can feel there is nowhere else to go
• It’s ok that sometimes you may want to talk about it and other times you may not want to
• Spend time with friends
• Spend time with your pets
• Write about or draw your thoughts, feelings and memories
• Memory books or boxes can be really helpful
• Think about all of the good times you had with them

Chat Health (Sarah - Moderator) / 19 Jun 16:55

The Winston’s Wish Freephone National Helpline is a vital support tool for those coping with bereavement. It is manned by trained clinical practitioners and is free and confidential. Call 08088 020 021 for free advice and support.

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Should you need anymore information on this topic, have a look at:

http://www.winstonswish.org.uk

http://www.childbereavementuk.org

http://www.thelauracentre.org.uk

or:

www.nspcc.org.uk

http://www.childline.org.uk

www.youngminds.org.uk

Alternatively you could speak to your parent/carer, a trusted adult, member of school staff, your Public Health Nurse (previously known as a school nurse) or doctor.  If there is an emergency then please contact 999 or visit A&E.

You can text your Public Health Nurse through the ChatHealth messaging service which runs Monday - Friday 9am - 5pm.  If you go to school in Leicester City please text 07520 615386, if you go to school in Leicestershire County or Rutland then please text 07520 615387.

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