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Webchat: LGBT 06.11.2017 4:30-5pm

Join us for a chat from 4:30pm on Monday 6th November 2017.

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User has removed their details / 6 Nov 16:15

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User has removed their details / 6 Nov 16:29

Welcome to this chat with Lisa from the LGB&T Centre. Lisa heads up a BBC Children in Need project supporting young transgender people and is here today to talk about non-binary identities.

Hello Everyone :) I'm here for the next 30 minutes to answer any questions you have about non-binary identities. Feel free to ask me anything you like and I'll try and answer.

User has removed their details / 6 Nov 16:34

So some of you may be wondering what non-binary means. And actually that is quite hard to answer because identifying as non-binary will mean different things to different people.

For me, non-binary is an umbrella term for anyone whose gender identity falls outside of the two binary genders - male or female. Non-binary may include gender identities such as genderfluid, bigender or agender as only a few examples.

User has removed their details / 6 Nov 16:35

Importantly for my project, non-binary falls within the trans* community. However, it is important to know that not all non-binary people feel they are part of the trans* community and see themselves as separate. And this is okay too.

User has removed their details / 6 Nov 16:40

I suppose the most important thing to say is that everybody's gender identity is individual to them and when someone says they are non-binary its always best to ask them what that means for them. Especially because someone who is non-binary may want you to use the 'they' pronoun instead of using him/he or she/her.

For some people this may be difficult to do, especially if you have always known someone using gendered pronouns. However, its so important to use the they pronoun, if the person ask you to as it is respectful and will make them feel more accepted and able to be their true selves.

User has removed their details / 6 Nov 16:48

If you think you are non-binary and would like to access some support it can often be difficult to know who to speak to or where to go. My advice would be, even if it seems difficult, to ask for help but make sure you ask the right people or person.

There are loads of resources online, however not everything you read online is right or positive. Perhaps look up Fox Fisher and Owl. They are two fantastic non-binary campaigners and they have YouTube channels etc for everyone to access.

Sometimes, as much as we like the anonymity of the internet, its really good to get some support from people face-to-face. And that's where my project comes in - The Young Transgender Centre of Excellence based at the Leicester LGB&T Centre.

We're here to offer advice, support, drop-in sessions and even have the T Party a youth group for those aged 13-18 every Monday evening. This is open to all trans* people including those who are non-binary. You can get in touch with us via Facebook, Twitter, our website or if you're brave enough just come in and see us. I promise we are nice :).

User has removed their details / 6 Nov 16:56

It may be that you are non-binary, or you know someone who is and their parents/carers or your parents/carers may not be as supportive as you'd like or maybe don't know how to support you or them. Because we live, whether we like it or not, in a very gendered society where mostly things are blue for boys and pink for girls, it may be difficult for people to understand or even start to think about anyone who doesn't fit into this ideal. Which isn't okay but sadly is sometimes the reality. Which is why it's really important that we help these parents/carers to support their non-binary young people and their individual needs. This might be showing them YouTube videos about what it means to be non-binary or by signposting them to my project as I can offer advice and guidance to parents/carers too! We have a parents/carers group which meets once a month at the LGBT Centre.

User has removed their details / 6 Nov 17:00

Sometimes, people ask me terrible questions like 'what do non-binary people look like?'. I think they mean well, but perhaps could have worded it much better. I guess what they are asking in a round about way is how non-binary people express their gender identity - how they dress, which hair style they have etc. Again, I don't think anyone has to dress, act or look a certain way to fit into being non-binary. You should be able to express yourself in terms of your clothing, hair style etc in any way that you choose. As the end of the day you are an individual and your self expression is so important to your happiness and wellbeing!

User has removed their details / 6 Nov 17:01

The chat is now closing - where has the time gone?? If you would like any advice or support around your gender identity just put the Young Transgender Centre of Excellence into Google. Thanks for having me :). Lisa

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