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Webchat: Healthy Relationships 31.07.17

Join us for a chat from 4:30pm on Monday 31st July 2017.

Worried about someone you know being in an unhealthy relationship and want to know more? Join us online for our webchat on Healthy Relationships on Monday 31st July at 4.30pm to talk to a health professional about whats OK and whats not OK. 

Remember all of the chats are completely anonymous, safe and secure, see our terms and conditions for more information.

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Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:24

The webchat on healthy relationships is due to open in 5 minutes.

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:30

Hello and welcome to today’s web chat on healthy relationships. Please feel free to join in and contribute to the chat.

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:31

What is a healthy relationship?

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:33

A healthy relationship is when two people develop a connection based on: Mutual respect, Trust, Honesty, Support.

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:36

The first step to building a relationship is making sure you both understand each other’s needs and expectations and being on the same page is very important.

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:40

Open, honest and safe communication is a fundamental part of a healthy relationship.

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:43

Respect Each Other

Your partner’s wishes and feelings have value, and so do yours. Let your significant other know you are making an effort to keep their ideas in mind. Mutual respect is essential in maintaining healthy relationships.

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:44

Compromise.
Disagreements are a natural part of healthy relationships, but it’s important that you find a way to compromise if you disagree on something. Try to solve conflicts in a fair and rational way.

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:46

Communication

Communication is equal parts listening and speaking. When you and your partner are communicating, try to make them feel justified in their emotions. Repeat what is said as you understand it and ask if you understand the situation correctly. Don’t expect your partner to read your mind. Be as clear and direct as possible.

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:47

Healthy Boundaries

Creating boundaries is a good way to keep your relationship healthy and secure.
Creating boundaries is not a sign of secrecy or distrust — it’s an expression of what makes you feel comfortable and what you would like or not like to happen within the relationship.

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:47

Remember, healthy boundaries shouldn’t restrict your ability to:

Go out with your friends without your partner.
Participate in activities and hobbies you like.
Not have to share passwords to your email, social media accounts or phone.
Respect each other’s individual likes and needs.

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:49

What Isn’t a Healthy Relationship?

Relationships that are not healthy are based on power and control, not equality and respect. In the early stages of an abusive relationship, you may not think the unhealthy behaviours are a big deal.

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:50

However, possessiveness, insults, jealous accusations, yelling, humiliation, pulling hair, pushing or other abusive behaviours, are at their root exertions of power and control.

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:53

you think your relationship is unhealthy, it’s important to think about your safety now. Consider these points as you move forward:

Understand that a person can only change if they want to. You can’t force your partner to alter their behavior if they don’t believe they’re wrong.

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:54

Focus on your own needs. A
re you taking care of yourself?
Your wellness is always important. Watch your stress levels, take time to be with friends, get enough sleep. If you find that your relationship is draining you, consider ending it.

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:55

Connect with your support systems.

Often, abusers try to isolate their partners. Talk to your friends, family members, teachers and others to make sure you’re getting the emotional support you need. Remember, our advocates are always ready to talk if you need a listening ear.

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:56

Remember that you deserve to feel safe and accepted in your relationship.

Chat Health (Alison - Moderator) / 31 Jul 16:56

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Should you need anymore information on this topic, have a look at:

http://www.healthforteens.co.uk or:

www.leicestersexualhealth.nhs.uk

www.nspcc.org.uk

www.childline.org.uk

www.youngminds.org.uk

Alternatively you could speak to your parent/carer, a trusted adult, member of school staff, your Public Health Nurse (previously known as a school nurse) or doctor.  If there is an emergency then please contact 999 or visit A&E.

You can text your Public Health Nurse through the ChatHealth messaging service which runs Monday - Friday 9am - 5pm.  If you go to school in Leicester City please text 07520 615386, if you go to school in Leicestershire County or Rutland then please text 07520 615387.

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