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Web Chat: Tips to improve your Self Esteem: Mon 18th Jan 4:30-5pm

Join us for a chat from 4:30pm on Monday 18th January 2016.

Self Esteem is about the way you feel about yourself and what you do.  Join us for a chat on Monday 18th January 4:30pm – 5pm to get advice from a healthcare professional, connect with other young people, ask questions, find answers and discuss.

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BlueOwl / 18 Jan 16:30

How do i deal with low self esteem?

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 Jan 16:31

Hello, can you describe how it effects you?

SportyMonkey / 18 Jan 16:34

What do you mean by self esteem?

BlueOwl / 18 Jan 16:34

Im just not very confident, i seem to have more negatives tan positives and have mistakes, i sometimes feel like im a waste of space :(

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 Jan 16:35

lets talk about what self esteem is..

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 Jan 16:36

Self-esteem is made up of the thoughts, feelings, and opinions we have about ourselves. That means self-esteem isn't fixed. It can change, depending on the way we think. Over time, habits of negative thinking about ourselves can lower self-esteem.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 Jan 16:37

Has anybody got any ideas about how we can improve self esteem?

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 Jan 16:39

Self esteem can affect different areas in our lives and it is not the same for every person. For example you can have a good self esteem about the way they look but can have a low self esteem about how well they are doing at school

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 Jan 16:40

Sometimes, people don't even realize that they're thinking so negatively about themselves. But once you're aware of it, and know that the way you think is up to you, you can begin to change the way you think. And changing the way you think about yourself changes the way you feel about yourself

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 Jan 16:49

So if you want to feel better about yourself try and change the way you are thinking....

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 Jan 16:50

1. Manage your inner critic. Notice the critical things you say to yourself. Would you talk to a best friend like that?
A harsh inner voice just tears us down.
If you're in the habit of thinking self-critically, re-train yourself by rewording these negative unkind thoughts into more helpful feedback.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 Jan 16:52

2. Focus on what goes well for you. Are you so used to focusing on your problems that they're all you see? Next time you catch yourself dwelling on problems or complaints about yourself or your day, find something positive to counter it. Each day, write down three good things about yourself, and/or three things that went well that day because of your action or effort.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 Jan 16:54

3. Try new things, and give yourself credit. Experiment with different activities to help you get in touch with your talents. Then take pride in your new skills. Think about the good results. For example: I signed up for an after college club and really enjoyed it. These positive thoughts become good opinions of yourself, and add up to self-esteem.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 Jan 16:56

4. Exercise! Being active and fit helps you feel good about yourself. You'll relieve stress, and be healthier, too!

Relax and have fun. Do you ever think stuff like "I'd have more friends if I were more attractive"? Thoughts like these can set you on a path to low self-esteem because they focus on what's not perfect instead of making the best of what is. Spend time with the people you care about, do the things you love, and focus on what's good. That helps you feel good about yourself, just as you are.

Be mindful about what you can't change and accept that none of us are perfect.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 Jan 16:57

Has anybody got any examples on how they have boosted their own self esteem?

SportyMonkey / 18 Jan 16:58

Make a list of the things you are good at?

SportyMonkey / 18 Jan 16:59

Try and recap on the things you've done to make you happy?

SportyMonkey / 18 Jan 17:00

Pick up more hobbies

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 Jan 17:00

Brilliant ideas.

SportyMonkey / 18 Jan 17:00

Staying optimistic!

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 Jan 17:02

Be persistent... and do not give up.. we learn from getting things wrong and we can do things differently next time. So dont be hard on yourself, have fun and stay safe :)

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 Jan 17:07

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