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Web Chat: Self harm – Mon 30th Nov 4:30-5pm

Join us for a chat from 4:30pm on Monday 30th November 2015.

Thought about self-harming? Do you know anyone who self-harms? Not sure what advice to give or where to get help/support. Join us for a chat on Monday 30th November 4:30pm – 5pm and connect with other young people, ask questions, find answers and discuss.

 

 

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Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 30 Nov 16:21

Hello all, this chat will start in ten minutes

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 30 Nov 16:30

Hi all
what might be the reasons for people to start self harming?

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 30 Nov 16:30

Hi all
what might be the reasons for people to start self harming?

SingingRat / 30 Nov 16:30

can I post now?

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 30 Nov 16:31

yes

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 30 Nov 16:31

:)

SingingRat / 30 Nov 16:32

ive spoke to my school nurse before, does my school get told that i'm posting?

SportyMonkey / 30 Nov 16:33

My friend has been upset recently and was talking about hurting herself.. I was shocked and said no!! How can I help to protect her?

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) SportyMonkey / 30 Nov 16:37

you could praise your friend for telling you about the self harm. is there an adult at school or at home that you could support them to speak to?
this could a school nurse? GP? or any other trusted adult?

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 30 Nov 16:34

no this is confidential unless we think you or someone else is at risk and a professional will review your profile. we would always let you know first.

SingingRat / 30 Nov 16:34

at risk?????

SingingRat / 30 Nov 16:35

meaning?

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) SingingRat / 30 Nov 16:39

At risk means that yourself or someone else is at risk of serious harm.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) SingingRat / 30 Nov 16:39

At risk means that yourself or someone else is at risk of serious harm.

SingingRat Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 30 Nov 16:40

k -ta

SportyMonkey / 30 Nov 16:38

I think self harm should never be an option.. I told my friend to never think about that.. you shouldn't have to hurt yourself ever

SingingRat SportyMonkey / 30 Nov 16:40

I don't get it really TBH - not sure how hurting yourself makes anything any different.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) SportyMonkey / 30 Nov 16:41

That is very good advice however your friend may be feeling overwhelmed and not knowing how to manage these feelings.
maybe you could give her some alternative ideas to manage the urge to self harm?

SportyMonkey Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 30 Nov 16:43

That's a relly good point actally, what are some alternative ideas to manage the urge to self harm?

SingingRat / 30 Nov 16:41

like what!?

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 30 Nov 16:42

You are right that self harm is never the solution to deal with your difficult feelings. there is always a better solution but sometimes people need support to recognise this.

SingingRat / 30 Nov 16:44

i know my friend makes massive scratches on her arms and I've said to her about it, but she wont talk about it.

SportyMonkey SingingRat / 30 Nov 16:47

She could be having trouble somewhere else.. speak to her if everything is okay.. or a responsible adult you know. you could even try to take her mind away from thinking about it

SingingRat SportyMonkey / 30 Nov 16:50

thx. she doesn't want to talk about it I don't think. I want to try and help

SingingRat SingingRat / 30 Nov 16:52

I mean I don't know why she does that to herself all the time - i don't know how it's helping?

SportyMonkey SingingRat / 30 Nov 16:53

She might be releasing her anger and stress on herself and might be feeling everything is her fault - which is not always true

SportyMonkey SportyMonkey / 30 Nov 16:57

Quick question, what if my friend isn't ready to listen to me and avoids talmking about it all the time? How can I get the message across to not hurt herself???

SingingRat SportyMonkey / 30 Nov 16:57

shes ok I think. I think she's got some stuff going off that she thinks I don't know about - but I do, I think if we just talked about it she'd be OK really. She always takes things too serious I think.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) SingingRat / 30 Nov 16:50

please try and encourage your friend to see a trusted adult or write down how she is feeling and show somebody
is there anybody you could speak to for support? this is a big responsibility for you

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 30 Nov 16:47

Some distraction techniques:
1. Five minute rule (when you are feeling ok make yourself a box of things that can distract you e.g a book, photo, bubble bath,elastic bands, red pen. if you feel the urge to self harm, you allow yourself five minutes to use the distraction box
2. go for a walk/exercise
3. drawing/ writing worries/ keep a diary
4. holding an ice cube
5. writing a letter about your feelings

there are many more, does anyone else have any ideas that have helped?

SingingRat Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 30 Nov 16:48

bubble bath - explain pls! :)

SportyMonkey SingingRat / 30 Nov 16:50

bubble baths are so realxing!!!!

SingingRat SportyMonkey / 30 Nov 16:53

oh yeah. obvs. get it now woops.

SingingRat SportyMonkey / 30 Nov 16:54

are you a nurse?

SportyMonkey SingingRat / 30 Nov 16:55

lol nooo.. i wouldnt mind being one in the future though

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) SportyMonkey / 30 Nov 16:57

you would make a brilliant nurse :)

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) SingingRat / 30 Nov 16:56

yes i am

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) SportyMonkey / 30 Nov 16:54

absolutelt right, bubble baths are so relaxing. the idea is for this to relax you, give you some space. We know that your thoughts feelings and beahviours interact. If we change our behaviour this may help change our thoughts and feelings so doing somehting like having a bubble bath may help you feel less like hurting yourself

SingingRat / 30 Nov 17:00

I'll tell her to have a bath then!! ;)

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 30 Nov 17:00

thank you very much for taking part in todays chat

SingingRat / 30 Nov 17:01

i don't think she'd talk to a teacher about it or anyone I don't think they get it really. Should I just say I know you did that to your arm yourslef - what did you do it for? And offer to talk.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 30 Nov 17:02

please remember to share your worries, talk to the trusted adult and look after yourself

SingingRat / 30 Nov 17:02

Or I could say that I know about the stuff she's got going off.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) SingingRat / 30 Nov 17:08

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