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Web Chat: Peer Pressure: Mon 21st Mar 4:30-5pm

Join us for a chat from 4:30pm on Monday 21st March 2016.

Think about all of the people you know. Just like you they will be worrying about what people think of them. Take a step back and think if you can be yourself in the group you’re hanging out with. To find out more join this chat on Monday 21st March 4:30pm – 5pm to get advice from a healthcare professional, connect with other young people, ask questions, find answers and discuss.

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Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:25

Hello, today's webchat on peer pressure will start in 5 minutes.

BlueCow Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:31

People are trying to get me to start smoking. I dont want to, but dont kno how to keeping saying no.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:31

What do you think peer pressure is?

BlueCow Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:32

Pressuring you to do bad things.

YawningHorse / 21 Mar 16:31

when someone makes you do something you don't want to

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:32

Yes - Peer pressure is feeling like you have to do something just because your friends or other people around you are doing it - to feel like you fit in.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:33

If you don't want to do something that all your mates are doing, it can be hard to stand up to them. You shouldn't have to do anything that you don't want to do. If your friends are really your friends they should respect you and not make you do things that make you uncomfortable.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:34

Being assertive means you can tell to your friends why you don’t want to do something without being rude to them.

BlueCow Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:35

But they wont be my friend if i dont do something

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:35

If you feel like you’re being forced to do things that you don't want to, or are worried about not fitting in, you can talk to your school nurse, teachers or parents for support.

YawningHorse / 21 Mar 16:36

how do you say no?

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) YawningHorse / 21 Mar 16:39

Say "no" and think of an explanation for why you are saying this. If they are true friends they will respect your opinion.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:36

People should like you for who you are and respect your decisions. If someone won't be friends with you just because you don't do the same things as them, then they are not true friends.

BlueCow Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:37

Then I dnt have any true friends. i want friends

YawningHorse Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:38

what's a true friend? is the opposite to true false? Does that mean false friends?

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) YawningHorse / 21 Mar 16:41

A true friends respects you no matter what, a false friend is someone who may be trying to get you to do something for their benefit and not yours.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:36

It might seem like everyone else is doing things that you are not, but sometimes that's not the case. Some people like to talk about things that they get up to, like smoking or drinking or having sex, but they might only be saying that to look cool.

BlueCow Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:42

Will you be my friend?

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:43

You'll experience peer pressure all through life, so you'll be one step ahead if you learn to deal with it now.

What to Do?
Choose your friends wisely. Focus on developing firm friendships with people with the same values and ideas as you. Even having one friend who'll back you up when you want to go against the group will help.
Be strong. Go with what feels right and is true to you and what you believe. Good friends will respect your individuality and the fact that you have an opinion that may be different. Stand up for what you believe in and you'll respect yourself more too.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:47

What advice would you give to a friend who was feeling pressured to do something they do not want to do?

YawningHorse / 21 Mar 16:47

every time my mate doesnt do something a group takes the mick

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) YawningHorse / 21 Mar 16:48

You can support this friend by sticking up for them and continuing to be their friend.

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 16:59

Blue cow mentiond smoking, What other things might you feel pressured into doing by peers?

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 21 Mar 17:00

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