Select your location for up-to-date news and information in your local area My Area
Content Page banner

Web Chat: Bereavement: Wed 18th May 4:30-5pm

Join us for a chat from 4:30pm on Wednesday 18th May 2016.

Nothing can take away the pain when someone close dies and everybody deals with the process of death differently. There’s no right or wrong. Feel like you’ve got some unanswered questions around dealing with a loss? Join this chat on Monday 16th May 4:30pm – 5pm to get advice from a healthcare professional, connect with other young people, ask questions, find answers and discuss.

Remember all of the chats are completely anonymous, safe and secure, see our terms and conditions for more information.

 

In order to post in our chat section you'll need to login or register some details first. Don't worry we wont display any personal information on the site, and you can choose an anonymous username.
Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 May 15:24

Hi All thanks for joining us today, this Webchat will start in 5 minutes.

SpeedyWolf User has removed their details / 18 May 15:32

Has this chat begun

ItchyZebra / 18 May 15:32

Hi

SpeedyWolf / 18 May 15:33

Hi

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 May 15:34

Bereavement can bring up a wide range of emotions, rangeing from anger, guilt, extreme sadness, relief, confusion, and problems concentrating. These are all normal and there is no 'right' or 'wrong'way of dealing with grief.

JumpingBear / 18 May 15:34

Hi

SpeedyWolf / 18 May 15:35

I'm on heare because my father pastaway in June last yr and when I talk about I I cry and wish he was here with me I felt safe with him but now his gone I dont feel safe

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) SpeedyWolf / 18 May 15:40

Hi speadywolf, I'm really sorry to hear your father died recently.It's normal for you to cry and miss him. What support have you had since he died? have you found anything that helps, such as talking to someone who you feel safe with? Have you heard of memory boxes, or have you been able to do things like write about him in a diary/journal? There are lots of websites that offer support, have you been directed to these?

SpeedyWolf User has removed their details / 18 May 15:45

I use many techniques bit

SpeedyWolf User has removed their details / 18 May 15:46

But I have other emotional problems that take over that I'm just getting help with from 3 yrs

ItchyZebra / 18 May 15:35

My grandad died a few weeks ago. I really miss him life just isnt the same now

SpeedyWolf ItchyZebra / 18 May 15:36

Yh I know it don't fell the same without loved one

ItchyZebra SpeedyWolf / 18 May 15:38

Everyone keep sayin it will get easier but idk when that will happen :(

ItchyZebra SpeedyWolf / 18 May 15:39

Sorry about ur Dad :(

SpeedyWolf ItchyZebra / 18 May 15:41

Sorry about your grandad :(

JumpingBear SpeedyWolf / 18 May 15:41

:(

SpeedyWolf ItchyZebra / 18 May 15:44

I have used many techniques to cope but my emotional problems take over and I'm ony just receiving help with that now I've been waiting for 3 yrs

SpeedyWolf / 18 May 15:38

Life seem to be impossible without my dad around to keep me feeling safe

SpeedyWolf / 18 May 15:40

I don't think life will get easier because it has been nearly a year without may dad and my life feels as though it has got worse

JumpingBear / 18 May 15:44

have you tried speaking to your friends?

ItchyZebra / 18 May 15:44

I've got a memory box. It's got a shirt in it that he always used to wear and some photos and a ring and a scarf. I saw something where someone could make a cushion cover out of an old shirt when someone dies so you can cuddle it but it still smells like his house so haven't done it yet. I might do it when the smell goes tho

JumpingBear ItchyZebra / 18 May 15:45

i keep looking at photos

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 May 15:48

People often say things like 'time will heal' 'things will get easier.'It's really difficult to hear things like this when you don't feel it! Time is impoportant and one year is still not long when you lose a loved one. Loss can feel less intense as time passes and it's really important to talk a about your feelings with someone, as well as remember good times

SpeedyWolf User has removed their details / 18 May 15:50

Can you give me some ideas that could help me cope a little bit more

SpeedyWolf / 18 May 15:48

My family had my dad cremated so i have h in my house which can be quite upsetting

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) SpeedyWolf / 18 May 15:57

Some people find it useful to have a peice of jewelry made from ashes, do you have any particular religious beliefs?

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) SpeedyWolf / 18 May 15:57

Some people find it useful to have a peice of jewelry made from ashes, do you have any particular religious beliefs?

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 May 15:54

YTou can make your own memeory box from something like an old shoe box, or you can buy online or from 'Winston's Wish which is a bereavement suppport service. 'Hope' 'child bereavement trust' and winstons wish are all good websites you can access for support. Writing about things in a diary, making a memory box, talking about your Dad are all things that can help. iT LOOKS LIKE THE FIRST ANNIVERSARY IS COMING UP, THINGS LIKE DOING SOMETHING HE USED TO LIKE, SUCH (sorry about caps) as eating his favourite meal, going ot his favourite place etc are all positve ways you can remember him

ItchyZebra User has removed their details / 18 May 16:03

My mum brought me a nice pretty box from the card shop. I really like having things I can look at and remember sometimes

ItchyZebra / 18 May 15:57

I like to go to the cemetry a lot when I'm feeling down. Sometimes it makes me feel better.

ItchyZebra / 18 May 15:57

I like to go to the cemetry a lot when I'm feeling down. Sometimes it makes me feel better.

ItchyZebra / 18 May 15:58

I will have a look at the websites

ItchyZebra / 18 May 16:00

If i txt the ChatHealth number can i talk to someone a bit more or will there be someone i can talk to on those websites you said?

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 May 16:02

Local bereavement support services include 'The Laura Centre' 'Cruise bereavement' and also if your loved one died of cancer 'Coping with Cancer' Check out the websites suggested above as they can provided telephone support

SpeedyWolf User has removed their details / 18 May 16:04

My mum has already got me and my brother into the laura canter

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) SpeedyWolf / 18 May 17:09

Bereavement can feel really lonely. I'm sorry you have had to wait for 3 yrs for support regarding other issues. I'm pleased you and your brother will be seeing someone at the laura centre, and that you can talk and support each other.

SpeedyWolf User has removed their details / 18 May 17:14

Thank you

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 May 16:03

Yes you can text chathealth to speak to a school nurse one to one

Chat Health (Nurse - Moderator) / 18 May 17:13

Thanks for taking part and being brave enough to share your pain. We will be doing another chat on bereavement soon, and hope you have found this has helped in some way.

This chat is now closed!

This chat is now closed, thanks for taking part.

Should you need anymore information on this topic, have a look at:

Health for Teens feelings section

Alternatively you could speak to your parent/carer, a trusted adult, member of school staff, your school nurse or doctor. If there is an emergency then please contact 999 or visit A&E.

Find help in your local area

Find out what services are available to you in your area. Remember your school nurse is always there to give you confidential help and support.