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Sex and Consent Webchat Monday 15th August 4.30-5pm

Join us for a chat from 4:30pm on Monday 15th August 2016.

Worried about your own sexual health or have a question you would like answered? Join us online on Monday 15th August where you can chat about consent, sexual health, facts and fiction and get health advice and information. A school nurse will be available to answer any questions you may have.

Remember all of the chats are completely anonymous, safe and secure, see our terms and conditions for more information.

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User has removed their details / 15 Aug 16:32

Hello and welcome to the live webchat. The topic today is about sex and consent.
Sex and consent is a difficult issue, mainly because something that seems so simple is continually ‘misunderstood’

User has removed their details / 15 Aug 16:33

Definition of consent
The Sexual Offences Act 2003 for England and Wales says that a person consents to something if that person ‘agrees by choice and has the freedom and capacity to make that choice’.

User has removed their details / 15 Aug 16:36

Did you know there is a really good video about sex and consent that the police have created here is the link. Have a look and see what you think

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User has removed their details / 15 Aug 16:37

What is consent?
Consent means that both people in a sexual encounter must agree to it, and either person may decide at any time that they no longer consent and want to stop the activity.
Consenting means only that at this particular time, you would like to engage in this particular sexual behaviour.

User has removed their details / 15 Aug 16:40

The decision to engage in sexual activity should have been made without that person being: pressured or bullied, encouraged to use drugs or alcohol to influence their decision, or manipulated or made to feel stupid.

User has removed their details / 15 Aug 16:41

In the UK the law says that both people must give their consent before any physical closeness or sexual activity. This means that if you want to have sex, you should always make sure that your partner wants to as well.

User has removed their details / 15 Aug 16:43

How do you gain consent?

There are many ways in which consent can be given, non – verbal i.e body signs/ language and Verbal i.e Spoken but .... The only way to be sure is to ask.

User has removed their details / 15 Aug 16:47

What if a person does not/cannot give consent?

Above all, if your partner ever says no during sex or asks you to stop, you must stop immediately. Saying no should never be treated as a game or as a signal that someone is "playing hard to get." Simply put, "no" means "no" in any sexual encounter.

User has removed their details / 15 Aug 16:49

Certain circumstances make it impossible for a person to legally give consent.
For instance, if someone is drunk or high on drugs, then that person cannot give consent. This means that even if someone seems eager to engage in sexual behaviour, doing so can legally be considered sexual assault or rape if he or she is intoxicated.

User has removed their details / 15 Aug 16:53

The age of consent for sex

The age of consent to any form of sexual activity is 16 for both men and women.

The age of consent is the same regardless of the gender or sexual orientation of a person and whether the sexual activity is between people of the same or different gender.

User has removed their details / 15 Aug 16:54

It is an offence for anyone to have any sexual activity with a person under the age of 16. However, Home Office guidance is clear that there is no intention to prosecute teenagers under the age of 16 where both mutually agree and where they are of a similar age.

User has removed their details / 15 Aug 16:54

The Sexual Offences Act 2003 provides specific legal protection for children aged 12 and under who cannot legally give their consent to any form of sexual activity. There is a maximum sentence of life imprisonment for rape, assault by penetration, and causing or inciting a child to engage in sexual activity.

User has removed their details / 15 Aug 16:56

'Indecent' images of under 18s are illegal.

What counts as 'indecent?'
No one has defined ‘indecent’ but basically if it’s naked, a topless girl, contains genitals then it will be indecent. It is illegal to take, possess or share 'indecent images’ of anyone under 18 even if you're the person in the picture. Remember - if you wouldn’t show it to your parents or your gran, you probably shouldn’t share it online!

User has removed their details / 15 Aug 17:00

Hi this webcaht is now closed. Hope you have found the information provided helpful.

This chat is now closed!

This chat is now closed, thanks for taking part.

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