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Webchat: Peer Pressure Mon 18th July 4.30-5pm

Join us for a chat from 4:30pm on Monday 18th July 2016.

Do you feel like you have to do something just because your friends or other people around you are doing it? Are you trying too hard to fit in and have worries about this? Join us to talk about Peer pressure and get tips on how to help.

To find out more join this chat on Monday 18th July at 4:30pm – 5pm to get advice from a healthcare professional, connect with other young people, ask questions, find answers and discuss.

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Chat Health (Nurse) / 18 Jul 16:23

The webchat to day on peer pressure will start in 8 minutes.

Chat Health (Nurse) / 18 Jul 16:29

The webchat is now open. What do you think peer pressure means?

Chat Health (Nurse) / 18 Jul 16:31

Your ‘peers’ are people who are a similar age to you. Peer pressure is feeling like you have to do something just because your friends or other people around you are doing it - to feel like you fit in.

Chat Health (Nurse) / 18 Jul 16:31

Have you ever felt this way?

Chat Health (Nurse) / 18 Jul 16:35

People can feel pressured in different ways.
You might feel pressured to:
Wear the same clothes as your mates or to look a certain way
Drink, smoke or take drugs
Change your friends because your other mates don't like them
Bully others
Bunk off school
Have a boyfriend or girlfriend
Have sex or take part in sexting

Chat Health (Nurse) / 18 Jul 16:40

You may worry that you will be left out if you don't do what everyone else is doing.
People should like you for who you are and respect your decisions. If someone won't be friends with you just because you don't do the same things as them, then they are not true friends.
It might seem like everyone else is doing things that you are not, but sometimes that's not the case. Some people like to talk about things that they get up to, like smoking or drinking or having sex, but they might only be saying that to look cool.

Chat Health (Nurse) / 18 Jul 16:44

What can you do about peer pressure?
If you don't want to do something that all your mates are doing, it can be hard to stand up to them. You shouldn't have to do anything that you don't want to do. If your friends are really your friends they should respect you and not make you do things that make you uncomfortable.
Being assertive means you can tell to your friends why you don’t want to do something without being rude to them.
If you feel like you’re being forced to do things that you don't want to, or are worried about not fitting in, you talk to a trusted adult such as your parents, teacher, school nurse or contact Child Line for free on 0800 1111.

Chat Health (Nurse) / 18 Jul 16:52

Being assertive isn’t always easy. Often people will try and get you to change your mind. You don’t have to explain your choice, or answer lots of questions about it. If you’re not sure what you want, it’s OK to ask for more time to make your mind up. If you want to be more assertive try to:
* practice what you want to say first, or try writing it down
* act calm and confident
* make eye contact
* say what you want, clearly and politely
* Don’t apologise for asking for what you need.

Chat Health (Nurse) / 18 Jul 16:57

Peers influence your life, even if you don't realise it, just by spending time with you. You learn from them, and they learn from you. It's only human nature to listen to and learn from other people in your age group.

Peers can have a positive influence on each other too such as teaching you an easier way to remember the planets in the solar system or someone on the football team teaching you a cool trick with the ball. You might admire a friend who is always a good sport and try to be more like him or her. Maybe you got others interested about your new favorite book, and now everyone's reading it. These are examples of how peers positively influence each other every day..

Chat Health (Nurse) / 18 Jul 17:01

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