Working out What’s OK is about you figuring out for yourself what is right and wrong – because everyone’s different, with their own individual opinions on how relationships work.
Nobody should feel pressured to do things that they don’t want to in a relationship or feel trapped or isolated by being in a relationship they don’t want to be in.
But different people like and want different things from their relationships – this can make things confusing!
What feels familiar?
We know from talking to young people that ‘emotional abuse’ is quite common – this might start as ignoring your feelings or expecting you to do things you don’t want to but can quickly become more sinister and controlling.
Hopefully What’s OK can give you the confidence to talk honestly with your partner, friends, or family about what you think is OK and not OK, so that you can make decisions about relationships that are right for you and stop any situations that might otherwise get out of control.
A healthy relationship checklist
In your relationship do you feel:
Do you have fun?
Can you talk about things that are worrying you and will your partner listen to you?
If you aren’t happy in any of your relationships (this might be with a boyfriend/girlfriend or a family member) then the best thing you can do is talk to someone – the services below are a good place to start.
How to get help
If you have any more questions on this area or would like to speak to somebody about this topic, have a look at the links or search for your local services in the blue box below. Alternatively you can always contact your public health nurse.
Find help in your local area
Find out what services are available to you in your area. Remember your school nurse is always there to give you confidential help and support.